Can we please stop associating being a good person

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? 

You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." 

You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." 

You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." 

You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat.