I have learned to walk with grace even if the night before I was awfully desprate

I have learned to walk with grace even if the night before I was awfully desprate, I have learned that trying is my only way to survive, that I should wear my smile till it become a part of my day, I have learned to keep carrying platelets of love even if darkness and hate have so much surrounded me, I have learned that somehow giving was the most real thing that watered my soul and that there's a reason of why I'm still breathing, I should never forget that. 🥀

رفتہ رفتہ تھم گیا مانوس آوازوں کا شور، دل میں یادیں ڈائری میں فون نمبر رہ گئے!

رفتہ رفتہ تھم گیا مانوس آوازوں کا شور، 

دل میں یادیں ڈائری میں فون نمبر رہ گئے!

ایسا کیوں ہوتا ہے کہ جو ہمارے جینے کا سبب ہوتا ہے وہی ہماری موت کا باعث بھی بن جاتا ہے؟

یہ ہے تو ایک سوال لیکن کچھ سوالوں کے جواب ہمیں ساری زندگی نہیں ملتے

پہلے پہل ایک شخص نظر کو اچھا لگتا ہے،ہمیں ہر برا دن اسی کی وجہ سے اچھا لگنا شروع ہوجاتا ہے لیکن جیسے ہی وقت گزرتا ہے اور ہمیں اس انسان کی عادت ہوتی ہے تو وہ ہم سے دور کیوں کر دیا جاتا ہے؟

شاید آزمائیش ہر پسندیدہ چیز سے ہی شروع ہوتی ہے!

وہ دوست ہوسکتا ہے یا پھر ہماری محبت

ہماری پسند کو ہم سے ہر حال میں جدا ہونا پڑتا ہے لیکن ایسے لوگ بھی ہیں جو رب پر بھروسہ کرتے ہیں اور کھوئی ہوئی چیز واپس ان کے نصیب میں ڈال دی جاتی ہے

باتیں کرنے والے تو بے شمار ملیں گے لیکن غور ان لوگوں پر کرو جو تم میں خدا کی صفات ڈھونڈتے ہیں 

جو تمہیں پسند کرتے ہیں

اگر تم نے اپنی پسند کھو دی تو ایک بات یاد رکھنا لوگ تو وہی اچھے ہوتے ہیں جو اپنے ساتھ ہونے والے حادثے کو دوسروں پر مسلط نہیں کرتے

زندگی ایک سفر کا نام ہے،آزمائیش کا نام ہے لیکن کھوئی ہوئی چیز کا گم زندگی میں نا ہو تو بہتر ہے!

دعا تو تقدیر بدل دیتی ہے 

جو کھو دیا ہے تم نے وہ ایک دعا سے واپس بھی مل سکتا ہے 

بات ہے تو بس رب پہ اندھے اعتماد کی!!!!

One In Four

"One in four girls will know what it's like, to be broken. One in four girls will know the pain, of having their hearts torn apart, and their souls ripped wide open. One in four girls will have to learn to compartmentalize a pain, they never should have known. One in four girls will lose their childhood. 

One in four girls, will feel like they're always walking alone. I close my eyes, and I see them. And I want to do everything in my power, to save them. One in four girls; just like me, will struggle to feel any happiness or relief. They will grapple with who they were meant to be. They will plaster on a fake smile for the world, and hide all their feelings of shame underneath. I was sitting in the hair salon just the other week. And I saw two little girls draped from their mama's arms, and two in tow beneath. They were laughing and playing. And I thought to myself, which one of these precious little girls, will know the pain of abuse and sleepless nights? Which one of these precious little souls, will lose a piece of their light? You see, this is why I do this work. I wake up every morning, and I bleed these words that I write. I have to do something. It has to make a difference. Somehow, it has to save a life. I am reaching souls, that have known this pain I've spoken. But what about saving the ones, who have not yet been broken? I feel the weight of this burden every day; to fix the souls like mine who are shattered, while still fighting to keep more predators at bay. These statistics go swirling through my brain every day. 

Sometimes they render me unable to function. Unable to eat. Unable to know what is still left to say. I vomit this pain every day on these pages. I do all I can, to spew out my self hatred; to rid myself of a shame, that never belonged to me. I've spent my whole life in a war zone, fighting so incredibly hard, just to breathe. And I don't want this for them; not for any other girl. I want to protect them. I want to keep them safe. I am fiercely determined, to change the world. I need to fix this. I won't stop, until I do. They are counting on us, to break our silence. I am here listening; are you? I care more now, than I ever have before. My eyes have been opened, and I can't just close the door. I will fight, until these statistics change. I will fight, until there are no victims anymore. I won't stop fighting, until the number stands at zero. And right now it's still sitting, at one in four." 

لوگوں کی محبت کو اپنا غم مت بناؤ پس لوگوں کے دل تو الٹتے پلٹتے رهتے ہیں ۔

لوگوں کی محبت کو اپنا غم مت بناؤ

پس لوگوں کے دل تو الٹتے پلٹتے رهتے ہیں ۔ 

لوگ کبھی بھی وہ نہیں ہوتے جو نظر اتے ہیں.ہر انسان کے اندر اور بہت سے انسان بسے ہوتے ہیں ۔ جو موقع کی تلاش میں رهتے ہیں ۔اور موقع ملتے ہی باہر نکل اتے ہیں ۔ 

کوئی سفاک 

کوئی مہربان 

کوئی ملنسار 

کوئی دھوکے باز 

کوئی دوغلا 

کوئی ہنس مکھ 

تو کوئی تلخی سے بھرا ہوا ۔ 

ایک لمحہ آپ کے ساتھ تو دوسرے ہی لمحے آپ کے خلاف آپ کو پتا بھی نہیں چلتا ۔ کون کہاں بدل جاے ۔ برسوں کے تعلقات منٹوں میں ختم ہو جاتے ہیں ۔آپ جتنی مرضی کوشش کر لیں آپ لوگوں کو نہیں جان سکتے ۔ آپ کسی کو جاننے کا دعوا بھی نہیں کر سکتے ۔ آپ یہ کبھی نہیں جان سکتے کہ بند دروازوں کے پیچھے کوئی کس حال سے گزر رہا ہے ۔ 

ہو سکتا ہے کوئی کتنا خوش نظر آے ، کسی کی ہنسی کتنی ہی بلند کیوں نہ ہو ، وہ کسی ایسے غم اور تکلیف کا سامنا کر رہا ہو جو نا قابل بیان ہو

آپ لوگوں سے نرمی برتیں ۔ خواہ آپ کو جواب میں تلخی ہی کیوں نا ملے ۔ درگزر کرنا سیکھیں ۔اور اپنی امیدوں کو صرف اور صرف اللّه پاک سے وابستہ کر لیں. 

I ,you and most of people in our society come across these situations often in our daily life

I ,you and most of people in our society come across these situations often in our daily life.

 It  is very common in our society specially outside banks and shops women and senior citizens are given priority and they get their turn earlier without following any qeue regardless of how many other people have been waiting for their turn for many hours . 

It is quite considerable that old people don't have good health so they can't wait much and stand in queue but I don't think there is any considerable reason for females not to follow queue .

 And now it is  becoming common practice whenever people see long queues outside banks or shops they just go back home and come along with old member or female member of their family and get their work done in just few minutes without any wait contrary to those who wait for hours to get their turn .Today I had to go to bank to submit my university  fee , I have seen this happening . Let's share a small incident with you , today I was waiting for my turn outside bank and 7-8 people were ahead of me waiting for their turn . Suddenly a man came along with his father and bought mask from adjacent pharmacy and gave it to his father and  asked him to go inside the bank as he was old so he will not have to wait ,now uncle went inside and  was  insisting again and again to take his son along with him but gaurds said only you should go but  , after 4-5 minutes uncle called his son inside after getting token 😂 and this way that man got his work done without any wait just because of his father while people who came before them were still waiting for their turn . It's just a one story , it's happens alot of times, sometimes outside banks sometimes at naan shops and sometimes at  others places. I am of the view that the separates lines /qeues for males and females are absolutely ridiculous , rather there should be token system , person regardless of male or female should get token and wait for his or her turn and get work done at his or her turn .  Females and males both should be treated equally and both should wait for their turn.Kindly don't link it with feminism or anti feminism  .

It's just my point of view you may disagree  .Do share your views , opinions in comment section.

what i have learned in these 25 years of my life is

what i have learned in these 25 years of my life is, empathy doesn't come in a day or two. we throw this word around in the air so much but only some of us know what it actually mean.

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i often wonder, if my tears could speak, what would they say? if dark circles under my eyes could scream, what words would come out of them? if the smile I wear on my brave days breaks down, what would be the process? 

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its possible, and its actually very common that you can't relate with people going through traumas if you haven't been through one. sometimes when we are listening to others, there is a voice in our head saying "why isn't he/she moving on, its been ages now." or sometimes we try to make them feel better by taking them out or forcing them to come back to life, and its completely out of love. i get that. i do.

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but what I am trying to say is, when we go through phases of grief, loss, helplessness, avoidance and distraction doesn't help. there is a void, there is emptiness and nothing can fill that. 

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at times like these, the person feels like the burden he is carrying is the heaviest. the person might not be able to acknowledge the "truths" we try to tell them. truth is, they can't. they don't know how to. they might start telling you that your problems are nothing in front of theirs because they can't see beyond theirs. Patience, acceptance, forgiveness, moving on are processes, interlinked with each other. 

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even if you can't relate, just listen. listening is the first rule of empathy. its not necessary for you to relate with everything. don't force moving on, you can't take away the pain forcefully because it demands to be felt. 

and those who are suffering, you are not complaining or being ungrateful by talking or expressing it out.

you are very brave, you breathe each day and if that isn't bravery, I don't know what is.

love, strength and prayers, always.

AL-MUNTAQIM

🤍 AL-MUNTAQIM🤍

                   The Avenger.

If someone has done wrong with you,someone makes fun of you or if someone hurts your  feelings.Do not be sad or disappointed.Just go to ALLAH, make a dua and leave the case on Him.You do not have to fear them.Because Allah has given you the most powerful weapon and that weapon is DUA.

.Use that weapon.Ask ALLAH for justice.Because He is THE JUST.He is AL-WAKEEL.He'll give you the justice.His justice is not like the justice of this world which is only for rich who can hire the lawyers and poor people do not get the justice because they do not have enough money to hire a lawyer.Where poor and rich are treated differently.But ALLAH doesn't care who you are.If you've enough money or not and ALLAH doesn't care who your opponent is.

If your opponent is rich or not.If he is powerful or not.If people are unjust,you'll get your justice from AL-HAKAM.Ask him for the help and all your worries will be gone.He is seeing everything.He is listening everything including your DUA.He'll do the right thing on the right time.Keep your believe in Him and His justice and you'll see how He'll take your revenge.Leave your matter to Him.🌸

Keep making Dua and surely they'll be answered by THE ONE who is LISTENING and THE SEEING.

Thinking makes a huge difference in every aspect of life

Thinking makes a huge difference in every aspect of life. since you become able to develop your thinking ability ,you become able to divert your life into the the way of desirable success . A person who doesn't have a developed mindset may not be able to bring the desired results that he strives for , for it seeks a mind that is free of doubts 

,confusions,negativity,regrets and stress. While a person who thinks that he is able to get something done and his thoughts are prominant towards a certain aim or task ,well , he can ,and he deserves as the efforts for something is being decided  by his thoughts which are based on the rule of 'believe' in the 'self'. 

Our whole life is determined by the quality of our thoughts. The more  positive you think, the more this world will offer ,and the negative you think ,you deprive yourself from something you deserve and lose all your potentials and abilities that is found inside of you.

It's natural to have belly rolls when we sit

It's natural to have belly rolls when we sit.

It's natural to have skin blemishes.

It's natural to have textured skin

It's natural to have hip-dips.

It's natural to have body hair.

It's natural to have a certain amount of body fat.

It's all natural.

I repeat, IT'S ALL NATURAL.

Pls stop beating yourself up over unrealistic body standards. No one will ever be satisfied enough if all they're after is PERFECTION. Because that defined perfection, my love?

Is a fucking myth.

Log kiya sochien ge

"Log kiya sochien ge " the sentence which destroy milloins of dreams"

.Life is the name of a goal. Everyone has come to achieve this goal , but  Everyone has a different way. This world is a exam hall and we have come here to find out the  answer of our questions.The Students whome we call the bright future of a country. The students for whom every morning becomes a new challenge that knocks at the door of their minds. In this world, everyone wants to adorned to their dreams. Some run for worldly success and some for the hereafter, some people in this world do not understand the ritual of defeat and victory, we students who work day and night to decorate our dreams

But there are some children who sometimes give up on this journey.

 To the extent that they lose consciousness and lose their lives, opportunities keep coming and going in this world. This does not mean that you cannot regain it.

Someone well said this that of our life and we students are bating here and life is throwing ball towards us sometime may be this ball missed by us it doesn't mean we comitt the suicide we will try to hit tge another ball as like this we should try for another ball in which way we will get success.

If you want to be like the sun, you have to burn in the fire.Poeple always cirticize you on your work they can appreciate you simply but no one have right to judge you , for people's criticizing don't leave your struggles just you know your best do do what you want .

Life is not a contract to keep you happy. Dreams are yours. 

Best of luck

Much love and peace!

-D