Forgiveness means doing the work necessary to process and understand the feelings of pain

🌼 Forgiveness means doing the work necessary to process and understand the feelings of pain from an experience, allowing it to move through you, then coming out the other side ready to forgive but not forget.

🌼 Forgiveness is something you do for yourself.

Remember that forgiveness doesn't mean you have to tell the other person that you forgive them.

🌼 You forgive to set yourself and your heart free, and this does not mean you have to re-establish a relationship.

🌼 You absolutely do not have to let them back into your life.

🌼 Forgiveness does not mean forgetting.

It also does not mean what happened was okay.

🌼Forgiveness sets you free from the trauma and the other person.

🌼 Forgiveness is for you not the other person.

🌼 Forgiveness gives you your power, and love for yourself and your life back

🌼 Forgiveness means you have all the teachings you need from the experience and now you're living life fully alive and free.

Can we please stop associating being a good person

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? 

You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." 

You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." 

You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." 

You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat.

تیرا پیار, جیسے گلاب تھا

Try reading this without a smile, 

Wait for the End 🥀

تیرا     پیار,   جیسے  گلاب  تھا 

جو   کبھی  کھلاِ  تھا، چمن   میں میرے 

وہ لال   رنگ جسے   دیکھ  کر 

دل لہو لہان،  ہو کہ رہ گیا 

  

جس  کے  عطر  سے،  یہ  میرا  جہاں 

مدہوش  خوشبو  سے  مہک  گیا 

تھے    پھول  کتنے  ہی  رنگ  برنگ 

لہلا  رہے  نظر  میں  میرے 

مگر،  ایک  وہی  گلاب  تھا 

جو دل ِ   باغ  میں  گھر کر گیا 

 

پر  وہ  پھول  جب  مرجھا  گیا 

ُاس  کی  َپتیوں  نے  ِاسی  باغ  کو 

گویا   قبرستان  اک  بنا  دیا 

جہاں   دفن   ہے   اب  اک  داستان 

وہ  داستاں  تیرے  عشق   کی 

جو  تھی  رواں ہر  لب  پہ کبھی 

جوتھی    موضوعِ   گفتگو   ابھی 

وہ قصہ ، حافظے   سے بھی  مٹ گیا 

اب  تو  باقی   ہے   کانٹا   گلاب   کا 

جو  تیری  یاد  کے  ،  قہر  کی   طرح  

ُاسی  دل میں  ، چبھ  کر  ہے  رہ   گیا 

جس  دل   میں   رہتے  تم     کبھی 

جو دل،    کبھی  تھا   تیرا   آشیاں 

وہ  دل  جو  تھا!  تیرا  سارا  جہاں 

اس  دل کی  خستہ  دہلیز   پر 

تختی ہے ، اب بھی  تیرے  نام  کی

جو شاید !   اب، تا عمر بھر 

کسی  اور  کو، یہاں  بسنے نہ دے

زبان سے معاف کرنے میں وقت نہیں لگتا

☜زبان سے معاف کرنے میں وقت نہیں لگتا مگر دل سے معاف کرنے میں عمریں بیت جاتی ہیں "

زبان کا استعمال سوچ سمجھ کر کیا کیجئے" 

دل کی عدالت سے ہر کوئی اتنی آسانی سے باعزت بری نہیں ہوپاتا۔!!!

The night is getting deeper & deeper and the stars have fallen aslee

The night is getting deeper & deeper and the stars have fallen asleep . People around me has fallen asleep too but my eyes are reluctant to fall asleep as it has been for the last 4 months. I have this feeling that my life has been very hard & unfair for me for the last 120 days, tough circumstances have triggered me into self-doubt and despair. I don't know where to go or even who i am. Everything seems confusing and scary. It is hard to see myself being successful, loved, or healthy again. All i m able to c is current unfortunate life situation. I am about to shed tears but meanwhile deep within the endocardium of my ventricles a strong voice is coming which says my dearest self whenever you face trials of any kind it provides u with opportunities to discover who you are meant to be and what u can share of ur gifts to benefit others. Yes the storms is all of a sudden. But Instead of being paralyzed by the uncertainty plx decide to continue being the best u can be , the shock will wear off, the fog is about to dissipate & happiness is still within ur reach. My dear self clarity is arriving gradually. 1day the fog at the beach will eventually be lifted & all the pieces of the puzzle will fall into place to tell u that there was a meaning in what happened to u.  The fog at the beach will eventually be lifted.

کوئی بھی شحص کسی دوسرے کی جگہ کو نہیں بھر سکتا

کوئی بھی شحص کسی دوسرے کی جگہ کو نہیں بھر سکتا، دلوں میں جگہیں بھی فنگر پرنٹس کی طرح ہوتی ہیں جو کبھی کسی سے میچ نہیں ہوتی۔

I think why we wish to be a grown flower in desert?

I think why we wish to be a grown flower in desert?

Why are we  always in search of that body who can wipe out tears when we know We are alone.Why we always wait for a crowdy ship when we know There is just empty ship.

Why we always wish for those things which seems to be impossible.

Can't we fight alone?

Can't we make things alone?

Can't we smile alone?

Can't we walk alone?

Can't we defeat alone?

Yes ,,We can.Bcz we were born alone so that we might be able to fight alone in this blue world.

Learn to survive alone,fight alone,enjoy alone.🌸

ہم کو تم کو پھیر سمے کا ،لے آئی حیات کہاں ہے۔

ہم کو تم کو پھیر سمے کا ،لے آئی حیات کہاں ہے۔۔۔۔

ہم بھی ہی ہیں ،تم بھی وہی ہو، لیکن اب وہ بات کہاں۔۔۔۔

 کبھی کبھی ہم چھوٹی چھوٹی باتوں سے لرز جاتے ہیں۔۔۔۔ کبھی آپ نے اپنے سکول، کالج ، یونیورسٹی میں ڈگری کے دو تین سال بعد جا کہ دیکھا ہوگا کہ ہر چیز ہماری آنکھوں کے سامنے گھوم رہی ہوتی ہے۔۔۔ ہم اور ہمارے ساتھی انہی راستوں پر کل تک گھوم رہے تھے، ہنس رہے تھے ، اک دوجے کے ساتھ ایسے مگن تھے کہ کبھی سوچا ہی نہیں تھا یہ دو چار سال کا سفر ختم ہو جائے گا۔۔۔ آج بھی وہی رستے ہیں، وہی کوریڈور ہیں، وہی کمرے اور بینچ ہیں لیکن ہم نہیں ہیں ہمارے ساتھی نہیں ہیں۔۔۔۔ جس جگہ بھاگ بھاگ کر جاتے رہے وہیں اکیلے بیٹھ کر دل گھبرا رہا ہوتا ہے۔۔۔۔

ایسے ہی دنیا ہے۔۔۔۔ 

کل ہمارے بڑے تھے، آج ہم ہیں کل کوئی اور ہوگا۔۔۔۔دنیا یوں ہی رہے گی، نظام ایسے ہی چلے گا، لیکن آپکی کمی محسوس نہیں کی جائے گی۔۔۔۔ ہم اگر ایسے ہی چند سال بعد اپنے وقت کے بعد یہاں آ جائیں تو شاید اک پل بھی نہ رہ پائیں۔۔۔ زندگی اپنے وقت میں اپنے لوگوں کے ساتھ ہی گزاری جا سکتی ہے۔۔۔ گزرے پل اور لوگ لوٹ نہیں سکتے نہ انکی کمی پوری ہو سکتی ہے ورنہ جانے والوں کو کون روتا۔۔۔۔ 

وقت کی، لوگوں کی ، ان لمحات کی قدرت کا تحفہ سمجھ کر قدر کر لینا ہی سب بڑی شکر گزاری ہے۔۔۔۔

Imagine getting into Jannah

Imagine getting into Jannah, anxiously looking for the people you loved in this world. Then finally bumping into them, looking at them and excitingly saying to each other…

WE MADE IT! WE MADE IT!

The smell of your perfume or the sound of our favourite tune will be easier to ignore

The smell of your perfume or the sound of our favourite tune will be easier to ignore

Furthermore I'll forget your promises to which you swore

One day , I'll stop searching up your name when all that follows is damn shame

One day , I'll stop writing long paragraphs without having the courage to hit send

One day all of my craziness will come to an end

I'll never compare someones eyes or smile to yours 

I'll never give in , crying behind closed doors

Who am i kidding? What's with all these lies ...

True love never dies those are words of the wise

Those little flashblacks will always tear up my eyes 

I'll never get over you

I'm just gonna have to keep growing through what I'm going through.

But Your happiness means more to me 

Than my own ever could

That's why I'll keep my silence

To not break your marriage just to do your heart good. 

This is my goodbye. I'm letting you go

Your name , your secrets will always be kept safe

Nobody will ever know

I'm Letting go of the love that I couldn't save.

The four years spent together 

Everytime i saw you

you could've knocked me down with a feather 

I'd like to think The best chapter of my story was yours

But i was wrong , you were the entire book

I had nothing left in my heart after everything that you took

My patience

My self-esteem

My confidence

I guess you had me on a hook

You were my silent prayer at night 

In darkness you were my light

Every wrong for you i would rewrite

For your happiness I'd put up a fight

The reason i wanted to become a better person was you

The reason i had faith in love again was you

The reason I'd neglect everyone else was you

But one day my worst nightmare came true

When you left, all you had to say was that we were a mistake

The words still keep me awake

I can still feel the ache

You don't feel the same way anymore , you don't think you can put up with me anymore

What was all of it really for?

Did i take the love of my life really for granted?

when she was and always will be all that i ever wanted?

Cursed for all my actions

Lost myself in fake lies and deceptions

As to this day I'm broken. 

for so long all these thoughts had been unspoken

I know i need to be mature

See the bigger picture

But do You really think my memories won't haunt you in your future?

You wanna know what true love really is?

That i accept the fact that your not mine but his. 

But don't worry I'll forget you one day

I'll mean it when i say I'm okay

The sound of your name won't take my breath away anymore

The smell of your perfume or the sound of our favourite tune will be easier to ignore

Furthermore I'll forget your promises to which you swore

One day , I'll stop searching up your name when all that follows is damn shame

One day , I'll stop writing long paragraphs without having the courage to hit send

One day all of my craziness will come to an end

I'll never compare someones eyes or smile to yours 

I'll never give in , crying behind closed doors

Who am i kidding? What's with all these lies ...

True love never dies those are words of the wise

Those little flashblacks will always tear up my eyes 

I'll never get over you

I'm just gonna have to keep growing through what I'm going through.

But Your happiness means more to me 

Than my own ever could

That's why I'll keep my silence

To not break your marriage just to do your heart good. 

This is my goodbye. I'm letting you go

Your name , your secrets will always be kept safe

Nobody will ever know

I'm Letting go of the love that I couldn't save.