When you have a difficult family member it's an opportunity to be rewarded by practicing patience

When you have a difficult family member it's an opportunity to be rewarded by practicing patience, overlooking their shortcomings and being kind to people who act childishly. 

It builds character not to react in the same way as people who mistreated you, but to be honorable and dignified. 

Practice self-restraint when dealing with difficult people. I know it's tempting to tell them off or treat them in the same way they treated you, but when you keep Allah in mind you will be focused on getting the best character grade from Him and not to succumb to your base desire of acting impulsively. 

Allah sees who is oppressive and who is God conscious. 

Allah sees who is fair and who is greedy.

Allah sees who is compassionate and who selfish.

All that really matters is that Allah knows. 

Note: I'm not saying in any way to tolerate abuse. 

Ajer=reward 

You're rewarded when you do good despite the rude behavior of others.

Give examples of times when you had a difficult person in your life and you chose to be the bigger person.